5 of The Meanest Things Said To Me/5 of The Nicest Things Said To Me
Along with each of the things said to me. I’ll leave you guys a little thought commentary. I’ll start off with the Meanest Things ever said to me. I’ll also say that 3 of the 5 were said by one person, and today, surprisingly I am still his friend. They are not in any particular order, its just how I remembered them.
“You’re like a fishing rod. You reel them (girls) in, and I steal them away from you. You’re a useful friend.”
Okay. I’m going to take a deep breath real quick. And, then sigh. The words “useful” and “friend” should never be put together in a sentence, ever. In this mean thing said to me, I was compared to a fishing rod, with bait on its line, to “reel” in the girls, for the using fisherman. What a great thing to hear from somebody. Sarcasm.
He latter goes on to tell me that I’m “bad bait.” What a swell fellow.
2. “The only way you can get girls to like you is by making them feel sorry for you.”
Sigh. The more I thought about this one, the more I thought it to be true. This one hit a little harder than most because, you know, I’ll admit it, I feel like there’s a lot about me to feel sorry for. Most of the time, I open up to people with sad things that’s happened to me. Some of those people just so happen to be girls. And when I thought about it, I actually ended up liking these girls who I opened up to. Can’t say that for all of them, but its happened more often than not. And eventually I learned, actually I’m still learning, that you can’t make anybody do anything. If that person wants to be your friend, then they will. If they want to like you, they will. I’m just going to keep on being me, and maybe one day, I’ll find someone who we can feel sorry for each other in our own little awkward ways and end up happy. But still though, that was a pretty fucked up thing to say to someone.
3. “I fucked the girl you like.”
Wow. At the time, I was pissed. I was rustled. No man deserves to hear that. But you know what, I’m not even mad anymore. In the end, she did what she wanted to do and he did what he wanted to do. Who am I to stop them? (Turns head, cries.)
4. “You’re way too big for me. We’d never work.”
This is actually a little tame compared to the others, but it had a strong impact on me. Now at first, as a guy, hearing “You’re way too big for me,” may actually be a good thing. That is, if we’re talking about dicks. But here, she was not. She was talking about my body size, my frame, my weight. I used to be a chubby guy. Full of chub, and full of love. Maybe a little too much love though. I got hurt from those words. Especially when she followed that sentence with, “We’d never work.” Now, I could call her shallow, or heartless, or any other mean things I could think of but, I think shallow is enough. I’m joking but seriously, this thing was actually one of the main reasons why I decided to lose weight. And when I did, I never looked back at her. Why? Not because she just so happened to find some of the weight I lost, but because of her personality. A little advice, you can say a bunch of nice things and get ignored. You say one bad thing, and I’m sure it’ll be remembered for a long time. Be nice people, come on. Treat others the way you want to be treated. And if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say nothing at all. It basic shit people. We learned this shit back in elementary school. Come on now.
5. “Give up.”
Some of you might get a little upset with me about this one, but this is real. The mean thing “Give up” that was said to me, was actually said by me. Now let me explain. I over think things, I get caught up in thoughts that shouldn’t be, and I come up with solutions that I think will help. A while back, I had a hard time understanding anything. Not actually understanding anything, like I know math and some basic science shit, but I meant things like, “What’s the point?” and “Why am I not happy, when everybody around me is?” Things like that. I’ve tried doing things, that at the time could have solved the problem. Some really stupid but all really dangerous. I’ve told myself so many, now stupid things, that I probably shouldn’t have been left alone to think for myself. I put up a good front though. I had friends, I made them laugh, and I even got good grades. I had all the things that would make a normal person happy, but for some reason, I just didn’t feel happy. I can act happy for days on end without people noticing that I had a problem, and I did, for the longest time. And after so many attempts of stupid, I realized that if I give up. I’m not only hurting myself. I’m going to hurt so many other people around me. And now, I can’t even imagine what it’d be like without them. Don’t get me wrong, there are times when I feel weak, and I think about caving in. But then I remember that I have friends, and family that’ll be way too fucking sad if I weren’t around to make them smile and laugh and shit. Those people need me, and I should stop being so damn selfish. I won’t give up, me. I fucking won’t.
Now for the 5 Nicest Things Ever Said to Me. These people are so freaking nice, you don’t even know! Like if being a lizard was being nice, then these people are like DINOSAURS! That was kind of dumb, but I hope you got the point of it. Here we go.
“You’d be a great Dad.”
Okay, this right here. I know what you’re thinking. Sean, how would they even know you would be a great Dad. Well guess what. I’ve actually heard this from a couple of older ladies who actually have kids. They love me. One even said that she’d love to clone me and have me around all the time. That’s not at all creepy. Its sweet. And even if I never have kids, I would still like to think that I’d be a good Dad. I can’t be a bad Dad. I don’t want to let anybody down, especially my kid. My kids cooler than your kid. Wanna fight about it? Too bad, I know my kid is cooler than your kid. You can think what you want, but I know whats up. And whats up is the cool rating on my kid, step off.
2. “You should have your own TV show!”
I’ve heard this one a lot. And still, every time I hear it, I get all gitty. I love movies, TV shows, documentaries, etc. I’ve made some videos online, and they were liked by some. Even though, I thought most of my work was pretty crap, they liked it. And I enjoy that feeling. To have somebody enjoy something that I created. And if I were ever to create a TV show, I just hope it’d be a show worth talking about. As my friends all know, I’m coming up with stories all the time, just in hopes that one day, if I ever get my TV show, that I will have plenty of ideas to work with. If I do, I’d dedicate it to you guys. You guys are awesome. High Five!
3 “None of that stuff really matters, you’re you, and that’s what I like about you.”
As I said before, I used to be a chubby bunny. And I’ll be honest, my main motivation to lose all that weight was for a girl. I lost about 80lbs. I did a lot, and when one day, after all of my weight lost, this girl and I hung out. She told me that I looked great. Smiles were present. I felt so comfortable with her that I actually confessed that I lost the weight for her. And that’s when she just looked at me, and said, “None of that stuff really matters, you’re you, and that’s what I like about you.” Now… I- I’m sorry but that left me speechless. I put so much work into this, I went through so much, and it just meant a lot to me, to hear her say that. I’ll admit it right now, my eyes are a little watery. I’ll tell you later how much I went through, and maybe you’ll truly understand how much this meant to me. But that was probably the only thing that has almost made me cry in front of someone, just out of sheer kindness.
4. “You may not be able to talk right, but you sure do have a way with words.”
Oh my God. This girl, I swear. I bet she doesn’t even remember saying this. Whenever I think about this, I always smile. Let me explain it though. Most of my friends know that from time to time (most of the time actually), I tent to mumble. My words end up slurring together and anything I say gets mistaken for things that I couldn’t even think of saying. She said this to me, because she needed to be cheered up one day. She wanted to talk on the phone, but I told her I didn’t like talking on the phone as much because I mumble too much. She understood because she knows how bad it is, so we texted each other. Within a matter of minutes, I cheered her up, and then I get the “You may not be able to talk right, but you sure do have a way with words.” I smiled so hard my cheeks hurt. She took one of my biggest social problems and used it to compliment me. I love that compliment. I can’t even. I’m smiling just thinking about it. Oh man. My cheeks hurt again. Ahhhhh.
5. “You never give yourself enough credit. You are amazing! Don’t ever change for anyone. Keep your spirits up and believe in yourself.”
Yes, this was written in my yearbook. And yes, it means a lot to me. And yes, I’ll tell you why. When I read what this girl wrote in my yearbook, I smiled. I smiled hard. I don’t know for sure if she wrote totally generic stuff just for the sake of it, or she actually meant what she wrote but I took it to heart. At the time, yes, I never gave myself enough credit. And I only realized it when I read it. She also called me “amazing!” At the time, I never really got called “amazing” before. “Don’t change for anyone.” Ha, later on she helped me realize that there’s nothing wrong with me. And if its not broken, don’t fix it right? “Keep your spirits up and believe in yourself.” Wow. Maybe this was just perfect timing but at the time, I was finally getting out of that “just give up” phase, and reading this…. man. It probably meant more to me than it should have, and probably to anybody else can ever imagine, but it did. And it’s nice. Its really nice.